How Being Mindful Helps Improves Your Dating Success

Mindfulness can be understood in different contexts. In meditation, for example, being mindful means paying attention to the present. In the context of dating, on the other hand, it is being conscious and proactive before going on any type of date. It means having a clear picture of what you really want and having the right thought process to act on it. Of course, that’s easier said than done. So, here are a few tips!

Set goals and expectations

Firstly, try to have specific criteria in mind when it comes to how you want your dating experience to go. You can have short-term goals, for example, keeping the conversation going for your first date and not having awkward silences. Or you can think about long-term goals like aiming for a serious relationship! Having goals and expectations help you stay proactive because you’re creating a dating experience that you can actually work towards.

Be strict with prospects

If you’re looking for a partner, don’t just look around everywhere. It will be way easier for you to find success if you curate potential partners strictly. Select an individual who, more or less, shares the same energy with you and has many similarities to you. This will be better than going around dating apps and matching with every single person you think is handsome or pretty. It’s not selfish at all to be mindful of what you want and catering to your standards from time to time!

Stay positive

Another thing to note is that you generally want to stay positive before, during, and after going on dates. When you’ve gone to many dates and have not found much success, it’s easy to start thinking negatively of yourself. But if you simply slide into negative thinking, you’re not doing yourself any favors as well. Stay positive helps you enjoy your time during dates so that even if you don’t technically match, you at least still have fun.

Be an active listener

If you think about it, being mindful revolves much around actually paying attention to the other person. Of course, this isn’t the only reason to actively listen. When your date knows that you are paying attention, he/she will surely appreciate it. This also doesn’t mean that you should listen the whole night and let them do all the talking. Ask questions, look for clarification, and don’t be distracted by your phone!

Still, be ready for rejection

Lastly, don’t forget that there’s always a chance you’ll get rejected at the end of the night. Be understanding about it and don’t take it personally. You have to remember that there’s nothing inherently wrong with you, rather, that the other person might just be looking for another type of person. Of course, rejection never really feels good. But you can view it from a bigger perspective and treat it as a stepping stone.

Quick Ways to Freshen Up Your Beauty Look in the Office

We can’t be the only one to start out our work day looking lovely while getting all the tasks done, only to find our makeup melting down by 4PM. Sure, there’s something to be said about long-wear makeup, but long-wear can only go so far when fluorescent lights and desks are involved. Don’t despair though, for there’s hope for your work day makeup look.

Here, we listed down five quick ways on how you could possibly refresh your look for that after-work party.

Scrunch Your Hair With Damp Hands

Running a few drops of water through your tresses will help in refreshing and reactivating any product that you applied on it. Simply flip your head upside down and massage your scalp using your fingertips to enjoy increased hair volume.

If frizz is your issue, use your palms to smooth down those unruly layers. If you’re thinking of sporting a super smooth look, rub a bit of hand cream on your palms and run them over the outer layers of your hair.

Carry a Pick-Me-Up Blotting Paper

If you haven’t been carrying blotting papers in your purse, then let this tip be a sign that you should start investing on one. Blotting papers have a multitude of uses aside from controlling your oily skin. They can be used to blow down your lipstick and blend your concealer or foundation into perfection sans the need to apply more.

Opt for a Tinted Lip Balm

We don’t need to remind you that lipsticks don’t always hold up after a long, stressful day at work. Even if its colour remains intact, there’s a huge chance that your lips will feel dry underneath. So instead of layering more lipstick, smooth on a complementary tinted lip balm to achieve a hydrated, plump-looking lips.

Reapply Your Blush

Blush is the key to achieving that glowing look, but it’s also one of the first things that fade considerably as the hours pass by. If there’s one thing you should do before leaving the office, it is to put some colour back into your face. If you haven’t brought your blush with you, simply use your fingers to blend a bit of lipstick onto the apples of your cheeks.

Curl Your Lashes

Avoid reapplying your mascara as it often results in clumping and spidery lashes, and just give your eyelashes a squeeze using your curler instead. It’ll instantly open your eyes, giving them a wider and more awake appearance. Just make sure that you curl your lashes gently if you’re already wearing some mascara so you could avoid breaking or pulling them out.

Ensuring that your makeup lasts all day requires more than just using long-wearing beauty products. So be sure to keep these tricks in mind, and we guarantee that your 9 to 5 face will be very grateful.

The Sweet Science: Why People Should Try Boxing

Many people think of boxing as a professional sport. There are also those who consider boxing a form of exercise. Of course, all this is correct. But many people don’t really consider doing boxing. Maybe contact sports just aren’t for them, or they prefer other forms of exercise. Even so, you might be convinced to try boxing at least once in your life. So read on!

It’s not just about the punches

The first reason has something to do with why boxing is called “the sweet science”. The use of the mind is also an important aspect of boxing. “Throw a faint, observe the opponent’s reaction, go for a 1-2, what do I do next?”

When you’re boxing, you train your mind just as much as you train your body. No matter if you’re doing it as exercise or to fight professionally, you’ll learn to think more critically and also think faster. This is one reason why boxing is so great.

You can punch the stress

If you’re one of the thousands of hardworking Singaporeans out there, you might be looking for a good way to relieve stress. For one, if you haven’t tried hitting a punching bag, you’ll find that it’s quite an exhilarating experience. If you’re mad, tired, or stressed out, you can take everything out on that punching bag without worrying about hurting it. Just being in a boxing gym can help you forget about your worries even just for a while.

It’s simply a great way to stay fit

If you want to lose weight or simply stay active, boxing might be a good choice. The initial assumption is that boxing mainly works the hands and the whole upper body. But the legs are actually doing most of the work. You have to dash in and out, move to the side, sometimes you even use your legs to put power into your punches. That being said, boxing works the body as a whole. You’ll be sure to bust a sweat in no time.

It’s fun!

More than anything, boxing is all about having fun. Because it’s mainly about fighting, you might think that you should always be serious in a boxing gym. That’s not the case at all! The first time you put on gloves can be exciting. Mitt training and shadow boxing can also be pretty fun. The best time though is when you start light sparring. You’ll have a fun time fighting against your sparring with a partner without worrying about getting hurt.

You have a way to defend yourself

When you find yourself in a less than ideal situation (let’s hope you don’t get into that), you might be able to use your boxing knowledge as self-defense. You’ll know how to punch with force and you’ll be able to dodge and defend against different attacks. When you do boxing, you at least know that you are capable of defending yourself in certain situations.

How to Create a Good First Impression Through Body Language

Two components make up any first impression. Everything you say and everything you do. When talking about first impressions, most of the advice people give will be on verbal communication. But non-verbal communication is also a very important dynamic in creating a good first impression.

That’s why you should also pay better attention to your own body language! So, without further ado, here are some tips to help you create a good first impression non-verbally.

Hold a good posture

When it comes to body language, one of the first things you should pay attention to is your posture. For one, it is the most actionable and it also really shows a lot about your health and confidence. So, stand up straight but don’t stay stiff! Keep yourself upright but let your body relax.

This is a very simple thing but it will surely affect how people see you. No matter what the situation, having good posture will be a reliable foundation when creating a first impression.

Don’t mask something you’re insecure about

The ironic thing about masking something you’re insecure about is that you’ll make it even more noticeable. For example, maybe you’re embarrassed about your teeth so you cover your mouth when you smile or simply not smile at all.

Others who spend a long time with you will start to notice what you’re doing and come to conclusions that you’re insecure about your teeth. The best thing to do here, really, is to embrace your flaws! Most people who see you accepting yourself will find that quality very appealing.

When it comes to eye contact…

People will advise you to always make eye contact, but doing it too much actually makes you look more like a creep. Of course, getting stared at would make any person feel uncomfortable. So, strike a balance with maintaining eye contact and choosing to look towards another direction.

Normally, you’ll be able to determine when to hold eye contact based on the context and the overall situation. Be mindful of when you’re already staring too much or when you’re not making any eye contact at all.

Point your feet to the direction of the person you’re talking to

This makes you face the person you’re talking to straight. Make your feet, chest, and face (basically your whole body) is facing the other person. This shows that you’re putting all your attention on him/her. It will feel like an unnoticeable thing in your perspective, but to the person you’re talking to, this will be very convincing.

For example, if you talk to a person and your body is not facing towards them, it signals that you already want to leave. So if you want to make a better first impression, make it clear through body language that your attention is fully on the other person.

 

Beginner’s Guide to Applying Make-Up in Proper Order

For many women, make-up is a fun part of their everyday routine. Although it is not necessary to feel good about yourself, it can bring positive effect on how confident you feel with your look. So, if you are someone wanting to explore more on make-up, here’s a quick guide on the proper order of applying face products.

Hydration

For a make-up to look flawless, the application should start by prepping the skin. Never put on make-up without smothering on some moisturizer first. It is important to avoid having dry spots and getting those dry patches once the foundation has set. If you’re going out and about most of the time, look for lightweight moisturizer in serum or gel formula. If you intend to be in an air-conditioned room most of the day, pick a thicker moisturizing cream to lock in moisture all day long.

Base

Now that your skin is prepped, it’s time to pull out the make-up. Start with a thin layer of foundation. Then, apply concealer in areas where you have blemishes or want to hide something, such as pimple marks and dark undereye circle. Avoid concealers with yellow undertone, because they are too neutral to counteract redness and unevenness on your complexion. To help brighten the undereyes, opt for concealers with pink or peach undertones to hide bluish hue of undereye circles.

Eyes

After you’ve smooth out the base, it’s time to start painting some colors. The eyeshadow look you want to achieve depends on your personal preferences, but generally you can get away by enhancing the natural shadows of your eyelids. A wash of brown, matte eyeshadow over the lids will give your eyes a little depth and emphasis. Complete it with a simple winged liner and a coat of mascara on your lashes, and you’re good to go.

Sculpt and Define

Now, it’s time to shape the face. Since you just smooth your skin out and cancelled out your face’s natural color, bring back the warmth by applying some bronzer around the perimeters of the face. Apply bronzer from the sides of your cheeks (nearest the ear) and work your way up to the temples and forehead. Next, apply blush on the apples of your cheeks, blending it up towards the temples as well. Finally, put on some highlight with a small brush on the highest point of your cheekbones for a subtle glow.

Lips

The last step is adding a pop of color to your entire look by putting on lipstick. But before that, make sure to exfoliate your lips to remove roughness and any peeling. Apply a layer of lip liner all over your lips and then top it off with your choice of lipstick or lip gloss.

Voila! You can now do your make-up just like how the pros would. The important thing here is that you know the proper order to ensure your make-up won’t look sloppy and will last for hours.

What Are Milia and How to Remove Them

Have you seen small white bumps on your skin that do not look like pimples or warts? These might be milia, which are yellowish or white harmless cysts that are common in a lot of people. Most of those who have milia do not notice them because there are no alarming symptoms, however, they can become inflamed and might change someone’s appearance.

Causes and Types of Milia

Milia is formed when the dead skin cells are trapped under the upper layer of the skin. The dead skin cells are also called keratin, which is a protein naturally found in our skin and hair. These trapped debris can turn into cysts which appear as raised bumps that look like a small pimple.

Milia is also known by the names oil seed or milk spot, and often occur in clusters on the face. There are arguments that connect the formation of milia to sun damage or complications due to illness, which is why milia can be classified into six types depending on the age of the person and its probable cause.

Primary milia is characterized by the appearance of the cysts on the forehead, eyelids, cheeks, and genitals among children and adults. Even without treatment, this type of milia will eventually disappear. However, their cause is still unknown similar to neonatal milia.

Neonatal milia are common in infants. They disappear after a while even without treatment, but you should have your baby’s skin checked to rule out other conditions like baby acne.

Juvenile milia is classified as an inherited condition and may even begin as neonatal milia. In others, the cysts do not show up until the child is a bit older. This type of milia will disappear and reappear even without treatment.

Secondary milia is the result of damage to the skin, unlike primary milia which can appear for no reason. The cysts will appear usually after the skin has healed from a previous condition. Secondary milia can also come as a result of exposure to cosmetics.

Multiple eruptive milia appears as a cluster of cysts and are usually itchy. They can be mistaken for acne or other skin conditions because of their appearance, but you should be careful when using ointments or creams that might make the condition worse.

Milia en plaque is the rarest form of milia that appear on the eyelid, behind the ear, jaw, and cheeks of middle-aged women. It is not clear what causes this type of milia, but they do not usually lead to life-threatening issues.

Removal and Treatment of Milia

As long as the milia is not inflamed or infected, it is no cause for alarm. It can go away after a while but that does not guarantee they will reappear after a few months. However, if the milia becomes bothersome or has altered your appearance, you can have them removed by a dermatologist or an ophthalmologist (if they are found near the eyes).

There are many ways to do this safely including heat therapy, cryotherapy, chemical peels, and laser ablation. However, if the milia are found in sensitive areas like near the eyes, it is best to have them removed with a lancet or sterilized needle.