How Being Mindful Helps Improves Your Dating Success

Mindfulness can be understood in different contexts. In meditation, for example, being mindful means paying attention to the present. In the context of dating, on the other hand, it is being conscious and proactive before going on any type of date. It means having a clear picture of what you really want and having the right thought process to act on it. Of course, that’s easier said than done. So, here are a few tips!

Set goals and expectations

Firstly, try to have specific criteria in mind when it comes to how you want your dating experience to go. You can have short-term goals, for example, keeping the conversation going for your first date and not having awkward silences. Or you can think about long-term goals like aiming for a serious relationship! Having goals and expectations help you stay proactive because you’re creating a dating experience that you can actually work towards.

Be strict with prospects

If you’re looking for a partner, don’t just look around everywhere. It will be way easier for you to find success if you curate potential partners strictly. Select an individual who, more or less, shares the same energy with you and has many similarities to you. This will be better than going around dating apps and matching with every single person you think is handsome or pretty. It’s not selfish at all to be mindful of what you want and catering to your standards from time to time!

Stay positive

Another thing to note is that you generally want to stay positive before, during, and after going on dates. When you’ve gone to many dates and have not found much success, it’s easy to start thinking negatively of yourself. But if you simply slide into negative thinking, you’re not doing yourself any favors as well. Stay positive helps you enjoy your time during dates so that even if you don’t technically match, you at least still have fun.

Be an active listener

If you think about it, being mindful revolves much around actually paying attention to the other person. Of course, this isn’t the only reason to actively listen. When your date knows that you are paying attention, he/she will surely appreciate it. This also doesn’t mean that you should listen the whole night and let them do all the talking. Ask questions, look for clarification, and don’t be distracted by your phone!

Still, be ready for rejection

Lastly, don’t forget that there’s always a chance you’ll get rejected at the end of the night. Be understanding about it and don’t take it personally. You have to remember that there’s nothing inherently wrong with you, rather, that the other person might just be looking for another type of person. Of course, rejection never really feels good. But you can view it from a bigger perspective and treat it as a stepping stone.

The Sweet Science: Why People Should Try Boxing

Many people think of boxing as a professional sport. There are also those who consider boxing a form of exercise. Of course, all this is correct. But many people don’t really consider doing boxing. Maybe contact sports just aren’t for them, or they prefer other forms of exercise. Even so, you might be convinced to try boxing at least once in your life. So read on!

It’s not just about the punches

The first reason has something to do with why boxing is called “the sweet science”. The use of the mind is also an important aspect of boxing. “Throw a faint, observe the opponent’s reaction, go for a 1-2, what do I do next?”

When you’re boxing, you train your mind just as much as you train your body. No matter if you’re doing it as exercise or to fight professionally, you’ll learn to think more critically and also think faster. This is one reason why boxing is so great.

You can punch the stress

If you’re one of the thousands of hardworking Singaporeans out there, you might be looking for a good way to relieve stress. For one, if you haven’t tried hitting a punching bag, you’ll find that it’s quite an exhilarating experience. If you’re mad, tired, or stressed out, you can take everything out on that punching bag without worrying about hurting it. Just being in a boxing gym can help you forget about your worries even just for a while.

It’s simply a great way to stay fit

If you want to lose weight or simply stay active, boxing might be a good choice. The initial assumption is that boxing mainly works the hands and the whole upper body. But the legs are actually doing most of the work. You have to dash in and out, move to the side, sometimes you even use your legs to put power into your punches. That being said, boxing works the body as a whole. You’ll be sure to bust a sweat in no time.

It’s fun!

More than anything, boxing is all about having fun. Because it’s mainly about fighting, you might think that you should always be serious in a boxing gym. That’s not the case at all! The first time you put on gloves can be exciting. Mitt training and shadow boxing can also be pretty fun. The best time though is when you start light sparring. You’ll have a fun time fighting against your sparring with a partner without worrying about getting hurt.

You have a way to defend yourself

When you find yourself in a less than ideal situation (let’s hope you don’t get into that), you might be able to use your boxing knowledge as self-defense. You’ll know how to punch with force and you’ll be able to dodge and defend against different attacks. When you do boxing, you at least know that you are capable of defending yourself in certain situations.

How to Create a Good First Impression Through Body Language

Two components make up any first impression. Everything you say and everything you do. When talking about first impressions, most of the advice people give will be on verbal communication. But non-verbal communication is also a very important dynamic in creating a good first impression.

That’s why you should also pay better attention to your own body language! So, without further ado, here are some tips to help you create a good first impression non-verbally.

Hold a good posture

When it comes to body language, one of the first things you should pay attention to is your posture. For one, it is the most actionable and it also really shows a lot about your health and confidence. So, stand up straight but don’t stay stiff! Keep yourself upright but let your body relax.

This is a very simple thing but it will surely affect how people see you. No matter what the situation, having good posture will be a reliable foundation when creating a first impression.

Don’t mask something you’re insecure about

The ironic thing about masking something you’re insecure about is that you’ll make it even more noticeable. For example, maybe you’re embarrassed about your teeth so you cover your mouth when you smile or simply not smile at all.

Others who spend a long time with you will start to notice what you’re doing and come to conclusions that you’re insecure about your teeth. The best thing to do here, really, is to embrace your flaws! Most people who see you accepting yourself will find that quality very appealing.

When it comes to eye contact…

People will advise you to always make eye contact, but doing it too much actually makes you look more like a creep. Of course, getting stared at would make any person feel uncomfortable. So, strike a balance with maintaining eye contact and choosing to look towards another direction.

Normally, you’ll be able to determine when to hold eye contact based on the context and the overall situation. Be mindful of when you’re already staring too much or when you’re not making any eye contact at all.

Point your feet to the direction of the person you’re talking to

This makes you face the person you’re talking to straight. Make your feet, chest, and face (basically your whole body) is facing the other person. This shows that you’re putting all your attention on him/her. It will feel like an unnoticeable thing in your perspective, but to the person you’re talking to, this will be very convincing.

For example, if you talk to a person and your body is not facing towards them, it signals that you already want to leave. So if you want to make a better first impression, make it clear through body language that your attention is fully on the other person.

 

Ways to Manage and Control Anger

All of us have something to get mad about and getting angry is clearly a natural emotion. But problems may arise if we don’t learn to control our anger. Losing to your feelings of anger can affect your relationship with others. Here, then, are ways to control your temper:

Know your triggers

Recognizing what things make you angry can help you learn to avoid them or confront them calmly. Try to think about the things that make you lose your temper. Once you’re able to do this, you can now try to avoid getting into these situations. Of course, you can’t really eliminate your anger completely. But you can make changes to your routine so that you won’t have to face the things that make you mad anymore.

Take a break

If you notice that you’re starting to lose your temper easily, it might be the result of too much pressure and stress. That is why it is important to take a break every once in a while. Any nature park in Singapore can be a good place to start, believe it or not. This is simply because they are, by nature, calm and serene places. You are allowed to breathe deeply and relax without worrying too much. This can also be helpful in instances where you’re beginning to lose your temper again. Instead of lashing out, try to imagine yourself in the nature park once again. Breathe deeply and relax.

Think happy thoughts

Because of negative thoughts, our problems can snowball into bigger ones that can also make us angrier. It is important to change the way you think about yourself or the people around you if the only things that come through your mind are negative thoughts.  For example, if you did something wrong for a big project, don’t say “It’s all over. This is your fault!” Instead say to yourself, “I made a mistake but surely there are ways to get over this.”

Engage in physical exercise

Doing physical exercise can help reduce stress and promote relaxation. Exercise can help reduce blood pressure and can also help with breathing and cardiovascular health. All of these ties into reducing anger because you have a way to release pent-up stress. Boxing can be a great form of physical exercise when trying to manage anger because you have a channel for release (punching). Even a brisk walk for a few minutes can help you release some stress and tension.

Learn ways to cool down

Once you find yourself in the brink of lashing out, try your best to take a step back and calm yourself down. One good way to stop yourself is to count from one to ten really slowly. This is to allow your mind to catch up with your emotions. Another way is to take longer and deeper breaths. This is because when you get angry, you’re breathing tends to get faster. So slowing down your breathing can counteract the tension.